My Moment Is Here And I’m Afraid To Go





Us travel bloggers spend many months and years preparing for our round the world trips. We research, work to save money, connect with other travelers and all to get inspiration for when our moment comes. Well ladies and gentleman, my moment has come and I don’t know what to do with it.

I have been waiting for this moment since 2008 and now I’m finally graduated from college and now I’m afraid to take the jump. Aren’t we supposed to love the unknown? We travelers live for unknown destinations, people we haven’t met yet, new things we haven’t tried yet. And still, I cannot understand why I’m nervous to let go.

I’ve done way crazier shit like canyoning in Switzerland or hanggliding off a cliff and yet I cannot make plans for a trip because I’m nervous?! Silly, right?


Well, since I’ve been in Los Angeles for the last few days for a seminar learning on how to stay in the moment, let go of fear and follow your gut. I’ve been on such an emotional high the last three days listening to legends speak at Kyle Cease’s Event, like Kelly Carlin (daughter of George Carlin), Glenn Morshower, Dick Gregory and many more. They have been through so much in their lives, careers, relationships and yet they do not allow fear or struggle stop them from achieving their goals. So why should I?

We become so conditioned to ask people for advice and get permission for something we already want to do.

“Do you think I should go?”

“If this were you, what would you do?”

Why do we ask those questions? We already know the answer. I was always taught to go with my “gut” feeling on everything. And most of the times I do, but who doesn’t have that little stupid voice inside your head telling you…

“Are you sure you want to do this?” 

“Is that really the right choice?”

“Maybe its not a good idea”

“Don’t do it.”

And sadly, that voice usually wins because it becomes a vicious never-ending cycle. Then comes the people who live their lives with regret after the fact and wish they made that initial “gut” choice. We look on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. and become envious of other people’s lives and get annoyed they are having a better life than you. We CAN have the life we want and we should not be afraid to leap. As Kyle said during the seminar, “Leap and the world will throw you a net.” I absolutely believe that.

Before coming to his event, I did not know much about him only what a good friend of mine had told me. I saw one video and found he was doing an event and bought the ticket without even having a flight out to Los Angeles. I did not know how I would get there nor did I know where I’d stay. But I still made it out here and I was just as nervous as I am now about another spontaneous unplanned trip I have been offered. The only thing I could say is I don’t regret coming here and I’m glad I did it even though I was scared to make that jump.

I guess what I’m trying to say to you and to myself is that nothing bad can come out of a spontaneous trip. What’s the worst that could happen? You have fun? You meet great people? You did something you never thought you would do?

I don’t know if I’m only speaking for myself or other travelers out there but we all get a little scared sometimes to try something that could be life changing. Even the biggest travel bloggers out there I’m sure had/have their moments. We live great lives but we must not forget we are human. We cannot resist the opportunities that are being thrown at us; it is those moments where regret becomes the worst side effect of not listening to your “gut” instinct.

The takeaway? If it feels right, do it and embrace the uncertainty.

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8 Replies to “My Moment Is Here And I’m Afraid To Go”

  1. Nice post Laura! Fear is perfectly normal- how you choose to conquer your fears will determine your life!

    I think sometimes you just need a little impulsive push and the rest will come to you along the way. We don’t bother to do much research anymore, if we like a place and it ‘feels’ right to us, we just go with it!

    I’ve been thinking about you heaps lately- maybe because I keep seeing all these swiss house sits and I think maybe a good starting point for your travels would be a house sit? This way you still have some space to write and sleep comfortably, and also lots of time to explore, all without having to pay for accommodation which is the best way for long term travel.

    Save your money and go where your heart is- you will find your way to where ever you need to be after that! Follow your heart and listen to your spirit guides!

    1. Thanks Mica! Yeah I definitely agree. I think its just a little strange for me because I’ve been waiting for this moment since 2008 and now its here, its a little scary yet exciting.

      Yessss! Thats what I want to do. I have not bought my membership yet, which one do you have? I was holding out until I got more information on my Italian passport. I’m going to find out more when I get back home from California. You send me really good ones btw!!

      Ahh thank you, it feels so good that you understand what I’m feeling. I actually booked the trip I mentioned in the post that I was nervous about doing. So I’m going back home and then flying back out to Cabo on Saturday!

  2. There is nothing like a little research, making some final preparations, and making sure that someone in your family knows where you are going. While I live the premise of the statement, leap and the world will throw you a net, there is something naive about it. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the premise. However, it can be good to have put in place a plan for how you will still leap and what you’ll do if the net is late or ripped or doesn’t show up at all. Yes leap… But have contingencies. I’ve seen people stage five at punk rock concerts, and no one catch them. It’s rare, but it happens. So be prepared ! Then leap anyway!

    1. Haha of course, I know what you mean. My family does know, I wouldn’t leap without letting at least someone know where I am.

  3. Laura, this is my favorite post by you yet! I can so resonate with the place you’re in.

    We’re in a very unique place in our lives and, like Kyle said, we need to leap into life.


    1. Thank you! I was writing from the heart. I couldn’t sleep and needed to get that out. And I completely agree with you! I’m so glad we both know Kyle.

  4. Awesome post Laura! I often get nervous to move on even If I have only stayed in a place a little over month or more. I even get nervous to come home sometimes. But its that odd butterfly type feeling in our stomachs that makes me feel alive. And for those of us who do make that leap, we get rewarded. Often we won’t know what the reward is initially, but majority of the time it is something truly amazing, something we will hold with us forever. Neale Donald Walsch says this best “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”

    1. Thank you! Yeah its been a while since I’ve traveled and I’ve been waiting to get on the road for the last 5 years. I finally graduated from Uni and I was nervous to leap, but I did and I truly was rewarded. I’m about to do it again and I can’t wait to see what comes next. And thats one of my favorite quotes! 🙂

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